Does this sound like a best friend to you?I don't,but lets c what u think.....?

Long story:Im 21,Im 19 weeks prego,just got married 3/2/08 well I've been b.friends w/ girlfriend for 10 years now,she's 20,well we used 2 do everything together,but she was really a BAD influence now that my hubby has pointed it out to me,I would never stand up for myself to her,she slept around,I did it too,we both got hooked on drugs,but I got off easy %26amp; she was very addicted(coke),well I have helped her through so many things in our life time,I was there when she was coming off her drug problems,boyfriend problems,so many things,I have been the nicest friend you could think of.Well now that Im prego,I really need a her,I changed when I met my hubby,matured more,I go 2 church,I didn't do the things I used to so that led me to not really hang around w/ b.f,Well I wrote her on m'spce %26amp; told her how I felt,like she could come c me,%26amp; call me sometime,well she pretty much blasted me out,saying bad things about my hubby,%26amp; me,n how i was not a friend to her really anymore,bc i changed,

Does this sound like a best friend to you?I don't,but lets c what u think.....?
She's very insecure and afraid she's losing you--to the new baby, the husband, the new life, everything. When you start going to church, and your friends don't, it seems to threaten them more than anything else. I don't know why.





And weirdly enough, when some people fear they're losing you, that's when they try their hardest to push you away.





It sounds like you've tried all the right things, and she's just too mad, hurt, and selfish to listen. You can try talking to her one more time. Tell her how much you value her friendship, and how hurt you are by the things she's said and done. Reassure her you will always be her bf, even when everything changes, but she has to make some changes too. She can't badmouth your husband and baby, and you need her to be there for you too.





She sounds like a very self-centered person though, who has taken advantage of you a lot. She needs a lot more help than you can give her, like counseling and rehab for starters. I know it hurts, but you may be better off without her in the long run. Like your husband said, she was a bad influence once and could be again, trying to drag you back down into your old life. Look at all the pain she's causing you. A true best friend doesn't do that.





Pray about the situation and ask God to lead you. Do what's best for you, your baby, and your husband. They're making your life better; she obviously makes it worse. It's a no-brainer.
Reply:its not your fault you decided to lead a better life. she needs to buck up her ideas. she might be jealous of how youve managed to change your life for the better.
Reply:Well shug she doesn't seem like a good friend to me everyone grows just some at different paces you are both young let her go it was fun while it lasted good that it ended you have a family now you can't expect her to follow in your footsteps. Awww poor thing I totally understand you seem to be very caring when "friends" get jealous there is little reasoning to be done just let it go time heals all wounds. Good luck
Reply:She probably misses having you in her life and doesn't understand the change. But People are going to change its a fact of life. Friendships change as people go through different phases of life. It sounds like you have bettered your life and shes got to learn to be happy for you. Maybe she is just hurt but that is no excuse to be mean to you and your husband. If she wants to remain your friend then she needs to be happy for you and maybe the two of you need to find a way to be friends that doesn't contaminate your new way of life. Who knows maybe you could be her inspiration to change her life as well.
Reply:Well first off a best friend should never talk badly about you or who you are seeing, and she probably can't handle that you have a better life than her. She might also be jealous that you have pulled your life together and brought you down to boost herself up. Moving on could be the best thing for you and your family.
Reply:The bottom line is your old friend is a selfish person and really doesn't wish you well. It sounds as though you're trying really hard to get and keep your new good life of track, don't stop now. Pulling away from a bad influence is a good thing, you're on the way to becoming a Mom and that is the most important thing in your life there is nothing else besides your husband.Good luck.
Reply:Believe it or not, i went through the exact same thing with my best friend when I was pregnant.





We used to be drinking/drugs buddies, but I settled down with my fiance and got straight, and when I found out I was pregnant, that was pretty much it, she wasn't interested anymore if I wasn't there to party.





Right now, you need to focus on what is best for you, your baby, and your husband.


And having someone unpredictable and causing stress in your life is just so pointless.
Reply:personal growth is in your best interest not hers thats why she's struggling with it. you're on a different path and she is afraid of loosing her friend . Perhaps when she decides to move forward you will cross paths again. one of my favorite things someone has ever said to me is .. " change is inevitable growth is optional." my hats off to you !
Reply:She does not sound like a good friend or the type of person who it is nice to be around you didn't do anything wrong and I feel bad that you had to put up with her for this long and if shes going to be a bitc* she is not worth your time! people grow up its natural, however there are some people who never grow up and then they take advatage of their friends (like shes doing to you) and wonder why there lives suck later, sorry if i'm being to harsh talking about her like this but I think you should be happy that you got rid of her and you do not need her as a friend!
Reply:to me it sounds lyk ur mates jelous =]


uv grown up and found somebody u wunt to share ur lyf with nd she hasent.
Reply:Just because you have grown up and matured and she hasn't, doesn't mean she should blast you and your new husband. Most likely she's jealous of him, you and your relationship, maybe it's your relationship with him, or god, or maybe she's jealous that you got your act together and she didn't. Regardless she doesn't sound like a very good friend at all, but if she's a great person on the inside then it's worth trying to smooth things over with her, or to attempt to end it on a good note.(be the bigger person) Good luck with the new hubby, the baby and your old friend.
Reply:Leave Her Be.


At The End Of The Day, Do You Really Want Somebody Like That Hanging Round With Your Kid?


If You're Happy, Don't Let Her Spoil It.


Get On With Your Life And When She Realises How She Been Acting And Grows Up Then Think About Whether You Want That RelationShip Anymore.





10 Years Is A Long Time But If She Treats You Like That Then I Wouldn't Run To Her And Apologise.
Reply:I drifted apart from my Bffs when I met my hubby and got pregnant. I had a friend similar to yours who luckily also got pregnant, so...But I bet she is thinking (not that this is right) that you ditched her when you got pregnant, and that your husband is making her seem like the bad guy when realistically you two each made your own desicions, she didn't force you to do these things did she. I would just explain to her, that you are always gunna be her BF but that if that is how she really feels about yalls friendship, then it's prob best that things worked out this way. My hubby changed my life too! Def. better in the end
Reply:That's not a friend at all! Just ignore her until she apologizes with a really good explanation. You're pregnant for Pete's sake! She is also a terrible influence. Stay away from her. She's probably just jealous. She's a ******. Don't talk to her. You'll make better friends. I'm sure. Your hubby will always be there for you. Good luck with your baby. P.S: Girl or boy?